Monday, October 28, 2013
Step Twenty-Four: Are You Focused?
It's really easy for me to get caught up in my day- work, planning dinner, taking the dog for a walk- I'm already mapping my day by the time I get up to get the most out of my time (otherwise I'll sit like a bump on a log). Mr. E and I are passing like ships in the night- his Sound team was let go from the feature so he's home, and I'm gone early, home late. It's not unusual for me to leave him a list of things to do around the house: deposit a check, make a return to Target, etc.
But sometimes I forget to say these things with love. I forget that Mr. E will do anything for me but he can't do everything. I don't always remember that he operates in a different way than I do and that my list-making and order-giving can seem condescending, even when I don't mean it that way.
It's times like these that I have to re-focus on my husband. In keeping our communication open and honest, I'm better able to understand how he's feeling (not so great being job-less, thanks) and what I can do as a wife to support him.
When I focus on my husband, I'm focusing on our relationship and that's always a good thing.