I am not above bribing my husband.
Frankly, I'm not above bribing anyone, but that's a whole other post, amirite?
It may not be the most ethical or rewarding of relationship tools, but sometimes you have to make do with what you have.
I bribe my husband with a multitude of things I know he likes:
- a whole day to sit at home and not go anywhere
- going to see a movie in theaters (we're movie buffs, what can I say?)
- food. Really awesome, usually home-cooked, food
Sometimes your husband just doesn't want to do something that you've set your heart on. In these cases, I call a compromise: I'll do this for you if you do this for me. This is sort of a last ditch effort for Mr. E to focus on what's at hand- usually it's something mundane like cleaning the house or making a run to Goodwill. But if I promise him something he wants at the end (we won't have to move for the rest of the day or I'll make pizza), I can get that last burst of concentration and willpower- just enough to get us through.
This is especially helpful because my husband sometimes has anxiety. Every once in a while, for no darn good reason, he just feels in the dumps and there's not a whole lot I can do or say to snap him out of it. I think I'm learning it's not even really a "snap out of it" kind of thing. But what I can do for him is offer a reward at the end of whatever I need. Having a tangible goal in mind keeps Mr. E focused on what I want (let's jog one more block) for us to get through it and on with our day.
Instead of this being a great sacrifice on my part, I'll let you in on a little secret: I like making my husband happy. Service for my spouse makes me happy, too.